My fiance acts as if Im her special needs child

Published: Saturday, May 10, 2025 at 7:14 am

Dear Abby: Fiance's Motherly Tendencies and Relationship Woes

In this week's Dear Abby advice column, two readers seek guidance on relationship challenges. The first letter comes from a man in New York engaged to a woman from another country. He feels his fiance treats him like her son, constantly checking on his well-being, offering unsolicited advice about his clothing, hunger, and exercise. While he understands her intentions are loving, he finds it stifling and has repeatedly expressed his desire for a partner, not a mother. Dear Abby advises him to be more direct, suggesting he tell her the behavior is a "turnoff" and that he's considering ending the relationship if it continues.

The second letter is from a woman in Missouri who has been with her partner for ten years. She expresses feeling bored and unfulfilled, as their activities have dwindled to playing cards, and she's always responsible for transportation costs. She feels like she's wasting her life and desires more excitement. Dear Abby's response encourages her to assert herself, suggesting she spend time with friends and insist on using her partner's car. The advice emphasizes the need for her to initiate change within the relationship.

Both letters highlight communication issues and the importance of expressing needs within a partnership. Dear Abby's responses offer practical advice, urging readers to be direct and proactive in addressing their concerns.

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