Dear Abby: Ex-wife returns after 46 years to explain
3 minute readPublished: Sunday, May 11, 2025 at 4:01 am
Dear Abby: Readers Seek Advice on Exes and Abusive Relationships
In this week's Dear Abby column, readers grapple with relationship challenges, ranging from the unexpected return of an ex-spouse to the emotional turmoil of an abusive marriage.
One letter writer, "Disappointed in the East," shares a frustrating experience. After 46 years, his ex-wife reached out via social media, attempting to reconnect and explain her reasons for leaving him in their early twenties. The letter writer, having moved on and remarried, found the encounter painful and unwanted. He advises readers that divorce should signify a permanent end to the relationship. Abby acknowledges the sentiment, while also pointing out that children can sometimes complicate the ability to move on.
Another letter, from "Hurting in South Carolina," details a difficult situation. The writer's husband, a veteran who recently underwent a quadruple bypass, has become controlling and emotionally abusive. He criticizes her cooking, isolates her, and yells constantly. Despite her love for him, the writer feels trapped and seeks advice. Abby suggests the writer seek employment to gain independence and recommends contacting the National Domestic Violence Hotline if the abuse continues. Abby emphasizes the importance of the writer's well-being and the need to consider whether she can remain in the current situation.
Finally, Abby extends a heartfelt Happy Mother's Day message to all mothers, recognizing the diverse roles women play in nurturing and raising children.
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