Dear Abby: Ex-wife pops up with explanations 46 years after divorce

Published: Sunday, May 11, 2025 at 6:00 am

Dear Abby: Ex-Wife's Blast From the Past After 46 Years

A recent Dear Abby column tackles a situation many can relate to: the unexpected reappearance of an ex-spouse. In this particular case, a man, identified as "Disappointed in the East," reached out to the advice columnist with a story of his ex-wife resurfacing on social media, a staggering 46 years after their divorce.

The letter writer recounts how his first wife left him in their early twenties. While the experience was painful, he eventually moved on, remarried, and built a new life. However, the ex-wife's attempt to connect via social media reopened old wounds. When he politely declined her request, she proceeded to offer explanations for her past actions. This, the letter writer explains, dredged up painful memories and left him feeling frustrated. He emphasizes the finality of divorce, stating that once it's over, it's over.

Dear Abby, in her response, acknowledges the letter writer's perspective and shares his message. She also offers a broader view, noting that some ex-spouses remain connected due to children. Abby suggests the ex-wife might have been seeking forgiveness, either from her former husband or from herself. Ultimately, Abby affirms the letter writer's decision to move on and encourages him to continue living his life without dwelling on the past. The column concludes with a heartfelt Happy Mother's Day message to all mothers.

This Dear Abby column highlights the lasting impact of divorce and the complexities of relationships, even decades after they end. It underscores the importance of respecting boundaries and the right to move on, while also acknowledging the potential for lingering emotions and the desire for closure.

Keywords: Dear Abby, advice column, divorce, ex-wife, social media, relationships, past, forgiveness, closure, remarriage, boundaries, emotional pain, Happy Mother's Day, Abigail Van Buren, Jeanne Phillips

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